The Unlovely Truth

Season 3, Episode 29: You Are Not Alone

According to the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network, every 68 seconds another American is sexually assaulted. That’s nearly one every minute. Nearly 60 every hour. More than 1,270 new victims Every. Single. Day. I’d say somebody needs to do something about it, and there’s no reason it can’t be you and me.
Our book this week is You Are Not Alone by Jyssica Schwartz, a compilation of true stories of abuse, sexual assault, and harassment.
God’s Word is so clear about helping those in need and in vulnerable situations.
So this week our practical action step is to find an organization near you that helps victims of sexual assault. Maybe that’s a rape crisis center, or a group on a local college campus. Maybe a local church has an outreach or support group for survivors of sexual assault. Does your local law enforcement have a squad dedicated to crimes? Pick one of these groups and just thank them. Send them a card, or flowers, or gift cards at your favorite coffee shop. Let them know how much you appreciate what they do. You might even find yourself wanting to volunteer with them.
If you liked this episode, be sure to check out some earlier ones. I’ve had so many amazing guests who gave me fantastic information you won’t want to miss. You can also help someone else begin their journey as a different kind of PI - a person of impact, when you share the episode, and when you subscribe, give me a five-star rating and a nice review.
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Season 3, Episode 28: Not MY Son

If you’re a parent, I’ll bet at one time or another you’ve worried about what your child will be like as an adult. We hope that they will be kind, generous, happy, and so much more. One thing you definitely DON’T want is for them to become a criminal. Let’s talk about one mom whose son became a serial rapist, and in her increasingly crazy attempts to keep him out of trouble, she became a criminal herself.
As terrible as all of Fred’s criminal behavior was, today I’m coming after Ruth for enabling him. There’s so much more to their twisted relationship than I had time to share today, but to give false testimony is beyond the pale.
The Pharisees and the scribes criticized Jesus for having followers who didn’t strictly adhere to Jewish customs, especially on the point of what types of things defiled a person. Jesus called them out for the hypocrites that they were and explained that what truly defiles us is what comes out of our mouths. In the 15th chapter of Matthew, verses 19 and 20, Jesus says. “For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander. These are what defile a person. But to eat with unwashed hands does not defile anyone.”
False witness. That’s exactly what Ruth Coe was. She knew she was lying, and she did it anyway for her own selfish reasons. No one ever seemed to tell Fred Coe “no,” least of all his mother.
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Season 3, Episode 27: Finding Justice for Cold Case Murder Victim Jack Robinson

Do you ever feel like true crime stories border on or even totally cross over into exploitation? It’s a fine line sometimes, and I try to always focus my telling of these stories as service. I want everyone listening to learn things they didn’t know so they can be safer, they can keep their loved ones safer, and they can then pay it forward by serving others to help survivors heal with justice and keep our communities safer.
Today I want to share with you a case that’s been cold for over 25 years now. Jack Robinson was murdered in broad daylight on August 17th, 1996, in Columbia, South Carolina. I’m truly privileged to be joined today by Jack’s only child, Tammy Downs. Let’s see if we can get someone to come forward with information about Jack’s death to help Tammy see some justice for her dad.
I know I’ve spoken about this verse before, but it is so relevant to today’s case that I want to go over it again. It’s Leviticus 5:1, and I like the way The Message translation phrases it:
“If you sin by not stepping up and offering yourself as a witness to something you’ve heard or seen in cases of wrongdoing, you’ll be held responsible."
That’s clear and to the point. If we know something, we are supposed to tell it to people in authority. If you’re scared, there are anonymous tip lines. Or send me a message and I’ll pass your information on. But the absolute best thing to do is to go to the police in person so they can ask you some follow up questions. You may know important information you didn’t realize was important!
So for those of us who don’t know anything - about unsolved crimes that is - our practical action step today is super easy. Just share this episode with your friends and encourage them to do the same. The more people who hear this, the greater chance we will reach someone who holds the key to solve Jack’s murder and give him and Tammy some measure of justice.
If you liked this episode, be sure to check out some earlier ones. I’ve had so many amazing guests who gave me fantastic information you won’t want to miss. You can also help someone else begin their journey as a different kind of PI - a person of impact, when you share the episode, and when you subscribe, give me a five-star rating and a nice review.
If you have any information on the murder of Jack Robinson, you can call Crime Stoppers at 1-888-CRIMESC (274-6372), or
Lt. Kevin Eisenhower at 1-803-576-3073. Tell them you have information on RSCD Case # 018-796-3023
Justice for Jack L. Robinson Facebook page
WACH news article
Article from unresolved.me
Google maps location for boat ramp
Project Cold Case spotlight
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Season 3, Episode 26: How We Can Get Justice and Safety for Our Seniors

Would you believe me if I told you that violence against the elderly is tremendously under reported? That might be because, according to the AARP, many victims know or are related to their abusers. That makes me angry, frustrated, and I want to cry - all at the same time. But I’m glad you joined me so we can learn how to keep the seniors in our own lives safe from the garbage people who would abuse and take advantage of them.
Our book this week is Stealing Joy: A True Story of Alzheimer’s, Elder Abuse, and Fraud by Dr. Glynnis Walker Anderson. Our guest is Shannon Dion. She helped found the non-profit organization Secure Our Seniors’ Safety after a serial killer murdered her mother along with at least eighteen other victims, most of whom were senior citizens. We’ll chat with her after we investigate our book which details the death of Rosalind Walker.
Today I want to focus on the story from John chapter 12 where Mary anoints Jesus at Bethany. Remember how she poured expensive oil on his feet and then wiped them with her hair? May seem a little odd to us, and it certainly upset Judas. He asked why the expensive oil hadn’t been sold and the money given to the poor. That sounds reasonable, until you read verse 6, which says “He said this, not because he cared about the poor, but because he was a thief, and having charge of the moneybag he used to help himself to what was put into it.” Wow, can we get a lot from that one verse!
We all have loved ones that are going to need care someday. I know it’s hard to think about and plan for, but today’s case shows us exactly how important it is that we do! It is well worth the investment to have a trustworthy professional set up wills, powers of attorney, advanced directives, long term care plans, and anything else that your elderly loved ones need to be taken care of and to have their assets go to the people they want them to go to. And it’s critical to do it sooner rather than later because you never know when a medical issue could render them unable to set things up themselves.
If you liked this episode, be sure to check out some earlier ones. I’ve had so many amazing guests who gave me fantastic information you won’t want to miss. You can also help someone else begin their journey as a different kind of PI - a person of impact, when you share the episode, and when you subscribe, give me a five-star rating and a nice review.
Get your own copy of “Stealing Joy”
Visit Secure Our Senior's Safety website
Tips on how to talk about money and scams with your parents
People Magazine article about accused serial killer of seniors
Inside Edition video
Fox 4 KDFW story about legislation aimed at senior safety
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Season 3, Episode 25: Murder-Suicide: Red Flags and What We Can Do to Spot Them

Can you remember going off on your own for the first time? Whether you were getting your first apartment, joining the military, or going off to college, it was probably exciting but also a bit scary. Today we are going to talk about how we can look out for signs that someone is struggling with a big change in their life - maybe even a change they are so poorly equipped to handle that they explode in violence.
Our book this week is The Events of October and our guest is pastor, writer, speaker, and resident counselor David Brannock. He’s going to talk about specific steps we can take to look out for each other when we experience big changes after we dive into today’s case.
I’ve got a couple of different passages I want us to think about today. The first is Proverbs 22:24-25, from The Amplified Bible: “Do not even associate with a man given to angry outbursts; Or go [along] with a hot-tempered man, Or you will learn his [undisciplined] ways And get yourself trapped [in a situation from which it is hard to escape].”
I also want to share Titus 3:10-11 with you from the New Living Translation: “If people are causing divisions among you, give a first and second warning. After that, have nothing more to do with them. For people like that have turned away from the truth, and their own sins condemn them.” This passage is dealing with people trying to cause divisions in the church, but I think the principle of the lesson certainly applies to relationships as well.
I want to challenge everyone - even myself - to find someone who needs to be encouraged to distance themselves from an unhealthy relationship. They may not see the red flags that you can, or even if they do they may just need that nudge that will move them to action. Even if they get mad at you like Maggie did with her friend who wouldn’t room with her if she stayed with Neenef, we need to plant those seeds that just might blossom in time to prevent another tragedy like Maggie’s. There are links below to other episodes about violence in relationships, as well as links to other helpful resources. I hope you’ll share them with anyone who needs to see that they are not alone and that there is hope.
Listen to Season 2, Episode 37: Why Do Abuse Victims Stay: "Every Breath You Take" by Ann Rule
Listen to Season 1, Episode 2: A Twisted Faith
Buy the book here
Connect with David Brannock here
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Season 3, Episode 24: Internet Safety for Kids: What You Need to Know

I’m a planner and a list maker, but I’ve got to say I never thought that parents needed to have a plan to deal with their kids' every online interaction. Then I read this book. Every parent needs the online power tools taught in these pages. Even if you think you’ve got your kids’ internet access all under control, I’ll bet this episode delivers some eye-opening information that is completely new to you.
Our book this week is The Online World and our guest is the book’s author, Rania Mankarious.
It’s a must-have book for parents. Even if you don’t have kids or your kiddos are all grown up like mine, I want you to practice our one critical action step to make ALL of us safer online. You have to listen to find out what it is!
This week’s Scripture to meditate on is Proverbs 27:12 - “A prudent person foresees danger and takes precautions. The simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences.” This is a pretty short verse, but I think we can boil it down even further and still capture it’s meaning. “Take precautions or suffer the consequences”.
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Season 3, Episode 23: Children for Sale

According to savedinamerica.org, nearly 30% of missing children are being trafficked. That’s thousands of children who are basically for sale. But don’t stop listening because this is such a disturbing statistic. Stay tuned for ways that each of us can make a difference. Don’t think it doesn’t happen where you live. Child Trafficking has been reported in all 50 states, so we need you!
Today we are going to focus on missing kids and what we can do to help keep them safe from trafficking. First, let’s take a quick look at some of the numbers so we can put some context around the issue.
I have children, and I can’t even imagine them experiencing the pain and the trauma that I read abut preparing for this episode. Even if you don’t have kids of your own, I’ll bet that there are nieces or nephews, neighborhood kids, or kids from church who you would do anything to protect if you knew something like this was happening to them. Sadly, not every kid has someone looking out for them.
Thank you for hanging with me through a difficult topic like child trafficking. If this is an area where you feel God nudging you a little, you can learn more about it by checking out the links below. You can find ways to take small steps to become a different kind of PI - a Person of Impact.
To learn more about child trafficking, listen to this episode
To report suspected trafficking situations, call the Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888
Get a free Family Safety Guide here from the Phoenix Dream Center
National Center for Missing and Exploited Children website
Visit the Courage Worldwide website
Check out the Truckers Against Trafficking website
Learn myths, facts, and statistics about child trafficking here
Read the USA Today article
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Season 3, Episode 22: Where is Your God Now, Part 2: The Aftermath

Larry and Connie Van Oosten of Erie, Illinois, were kidnapped and terrorized by a man who was after their hard-earned retirement savings. They had an unshakable faith in God that helped them survive the ordeal, but would it be enough to help them stay strong once they realized the kidnapper was someone they knew?
This week we are wrapping up the story from the book “Rescued for a Reason” by Larry and Connie themselves as told to A.L. Rogers. Lori Prather, our Unlovely Truth Chaplain, is going to join us again to see where lessons from the book can be applied in our own lives. When terrible things happen, it's easy to ask ourselves, “Why does God allow suffering?” I’ve wondered that many times in my life, and I wondered it again reading this book. I think that maybe it isn’t the right questions to ask. Maybe a better question is “Why do we?”
Let’s look at Proverbs 3:27 from the Message translation: Never walk away from someone who deserves help; your hand is God’s hand for that person. I doubt that anyone listening knew Chad, knew what he was planning, but - is there something we know about, and we just don’t want to get involved? I get that, I do, but victims don’t want to be involved either - but they weren’t given a choice. They need God’s hand to intervene, and God may be wanting to do it through YOU or through ME.
Remember how God used Moses, Esther, Noah, Nehemiah, Paul, and of course, Jesus? They each played a role in delivering others from suffering. God is inviting each of us to join Him in that work today.
Haven’t listened to Part 1 yet? You can do that here
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Season 3, Episode 21: Where is Your God Now, Part 1: The Kidnapping

Larry and Connie Van Oosten were looking forward to a quiet retirement in the small, peaceful town of Erie, Illinois. They’d worked hard and planned well. Little did they know that someone else had spent over a year and a half working hard on a plan to kidnap the Van Oostens, steal their retirement savings, and then, who knows?
This week and next we’re going to dive into the book “Rescued for a Reason” by Larry and Connie themselves as told to A.L. Rogers. Lori Prather, our Unlovely Truth Chaplain, is going to join us to talk about ways to keep our faith strong when we are facing tough times.
I’ve never been kidnapped, but I’ve been through some hard times, and I know you have too. Maybe, like the kidnapper, you’ve asked where God was in the midst of something terrible. As today’s passage reminds us, He is always found in times of trouble. The problem is that sometimes we fix our eyes on the problem and not on God. If you are walking through a difficult time right now, I hope you will memorize this verse and meditate on it often:
Psalm 46:1-3 CSB
God is our refuge and strength, a helper who is always found in times of trouble.
Therefore we will not be afraid, though the earth trembles and the mountains topple
into the depths of the seas, though its water roars and foams
and the mountains quake with its turmoil.
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Season 3, Episode 20: I Will Find You: Behind the Scenes with Detective Lieutenant Joe Kenda

Have you ever wondered what the most dangerous creature on earth is? According to Joe Kenda, it’s us! On the flip side, who can work together on a mission to help our communities be places where we feel safe and people who have been affected by crime know they will get the support they need? It’s us.
Our book this week is “I Will Find You” by one of my favorite true crime TV personalities, Detective Joe Kenda, so you’re going to get some great information AND inspiration from this episode. I know how much you all love behind the scenes stories, and that’s exactly what this is. This is where he tells the stories that didn’t make it on his super popular TV show.
And we will talk about John 10:3-4: “The gatekeeper opens the gate for him, and the sheep recognize his voice and come to him. He calls his own sheep by name and leads them out. After he has gathered his own flock, he walks ahead of them, and they follow him because they know his voice.”
I’m going to go out on a limb here and guess that most of us haven’t spent much time around sheep. I know I haven’t. But I do have a dog. And my dog certainly knows my voice and will (mostly) do what I tell him. He knows my voice and he trusts me, so he isn’t afraid to follow my commands.
I wish I always had that level of trust when I hear God talking to me, don’t you? I guess that’s our version of obedience school! Which my dog has been to twice. Just saying - it never hurts to refresh our training.
Let’s all go back to obedience school! Let’s take this next week to read more of John chapter 10 and really meditate on verses 3 and 4. We can ask God to show us areas that He wants to lead us in and then - this next step is crucial - we need to FOLLOW HIM. And if you feel like sharing, you can email me at lori@theunlovelytruth.com, or message me on social media. I’d love to hear from you!
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Read about facts on drugs and crime in America here
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