The Unlovely Truth

Season 3, Episode 6: Murderous Love: Cold Kill by Jack Olsen

Love is supposed to be patient, kind, and rejoicing in the truth. It doesn’t dishonor others or delight in evil. And Love doesn’t ask you to kill for it. Our book this week is “Cold Kill” by best-selling author Jack Olsen. A female PI busted this case wide open, so I’m going to give you my take as a female PI on what she did to expose two cold blooded killers.
I hope you’ll read and meditate on Psalm 139:1-12 yourself, but I’m going to summarize and share some thoughts about how these verses relate to this episode. God knows everything. Everything! That means he knows my thoughts and my intentions. He’s not surprised by a single thing I do. There is nowhere I can hide myself or my motives from God. That’s a bit scary, but also good news because God knows the darkest parts of me and STILL LOVES ME! I’m so thankful that if we tell God we are sorry and truly turn away from the bad things that we do, He forgives us. If you’re struggling with something you’ve done that you think is standing between you and God, I hope this will help you remember that He already knows and if you will repent of your actions and go a different direction, He’s ready and eager to forgive.
I hope you never have to worry about hiring a PI to investigate a member of your own circle of family or friends. But it didn’t have to take a PI to notice and act on some of the red flags we saw in both Cindy and David’s behavior. I think as Christians and especially those of us who are also women, we like to give people the benefit of the doubt. We don’t want to intrude on other people’s personal issues. Right here and right now I’m giving us ALL permission to start butting in when we see red flags, because the people who might be in danger are often the people least able to see them for what they are - danger signals. If someone is willing to verbally threaten to kill someone, let’s quit saying, “Oh they are just dramatic,” or “they had a bit too much wine”, or whatever excuse we use. Jesus said in Luke 6:45 that our mouths speak what our hearts are full of. So our practical action step for this week is that if you see or hear something, say something! Your willingness to speak up could literally be the difference between life or death for someone.
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Season 3, Episode 5: Missing Mom Tiffany Foster Needs Your Help

Mom of three, Tiffany Foster, hasn’t been seen since March first of 2021. She left the home where she lived with her fiancee Reginald Robertson in Newnan, Georgia, and seemingly vanished. Tiffany’s daughter received a text from her mother asking if she needed anything from the grocery store, and since then, no one who loved her has heard a word from Tiffany.
I’ll bet that most of you listening right now want an easy action step that you can take to help families like Tiffany’s. And that’s why I love my listeners!!!
I’ve got something for you that will take you less than 5 minutes to get started with. Just google missing persons in your county. See if any of them have FaceBook pages dedicated to finding that person. Join the group and ask if they need help printing and posting flyers, or with an organized search, maybe even a fundraiser to meet the needs of that missing person’s children. Then I want to hear how YOU decided to get out of the audience and into the action!
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11alive.com article #1
11alive.com article #2
11alive.com article #3
times-herald.com article
cbs46.com article
wsbtv.com article
Searching for Tiffany Foster FaceBook page
fox5atlanta.com article
dailymail.co.uk article
wehelpthemissing.org

Season 3, Episode 4: Whisper of Fear: The True Story of the Prosecutor Who Stalks the Stalkers

It’s definitely an unlovely truth that any one of us can become a victim of a stalker, and the crime is much more widespread than you might think. An estimated 6 to 7.5 MILLION people are stalked each year in the U.S. and my guess is that due to the nature of the crime it’s likely very underreported, so those numbers are probably quite a bit higher.
Prosecutor Rhonda B. Saunders has prosecuted criminals who stalked celebrities, as well as people like you and me, who, for reasons only known to the stalker, chose them as the object of their evil intentions. Her book, “Whisper of Fear: The True Story of the Prosecutor Who Stalks the Stalkers,” shares stories of how she developed the legal weapons to fight stalking. She even gives her thoughts on what’s going on in the minds of stalkers, and in my favorite section, she gives lots of resources on how you can protect yourself and those you love against these people who invade their lives.
The hosts of the podcast “Strictly Stalking,” Jake Deptula and Jaimie Beebe, join us this week to share what they’ve learned as they went from being entertainers who also advocate to being advocates who are also very entertaining.
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Buy "Whisper of Fear: The True Story of the Prosecutor Who Stalks the Stalkers"
Information from womenslaw.org
U.S. Department of Justice information on stalking
Stalking awareness fact sheet
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Season 3, Episode 3: How Do You Recognize a Stalker? ”A Tangled Web” by Leslie Rule (Part 2)

Being stalked was turning Dave Kroupa’s life upside down. The one person who was always there for him was Liz. He could never have dreamed that she was also the person who was tearing his life apart.
Our book this week is “A Tangled Web” by Leslie Rule, the daughter of the queen of true crime Ann Rule and a talented writer in her own right. Brandon Hall, 911 operator and host of the awesome podcast “Music City 911” joins us again this week. This case is so complicated, such a tangled web as the title of the book says, that it’s taken us two episodes to cover it. If you haven’t heard last week's episode yet, you need to go back and check it out.
As an attorney I used to work with often said, “You can’t make this stuff up.” Don”t miss the crazy twists and turns that this story takes.
Listen to last week’s episode
Link to buy "A Tangled Web"
Information from womenslaw.org
Listen to "Music City 911"
Follow Brandon on FaceBook
Article from Pew Research Center's Trust Magazine
Stalking awareness fact sheet
Jesus drives out the money changers
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Season 3, Episode 2: When Stalking Turns Violent: ”A Tangled Web” by Leslie Rule

Dave Kroupa liked women, but didn’t want to be tied down to just one. In 2012, he met a woman online named Shanna Elizabeth Golyar who went by "Liz". Against his better judgment, they formed a close bond when a woman Dave had briefly dated seemed to be stalking them both. But how can you be a stalker if you aren’t even still alive?
Our book this week is “A Tangled Web” by Leslie Rule. Yes, she’s the daughter of the queen of true crime Ann Rule, but she’s a talented writer in her own right. I have a fascinating guest today - Brandon Hall, 911 operator and host of the awesome podcast “Music City 911”. This case is so complicated, such a tangled web as the title of the book says, that we’re covering it in two episodes, this week and next - so don’t miss either one!
If you’ve ever wondered why stalking is a crime, this story and its aftermath will explain it better than any I’ve ever heard. And if you’ve ever asked yourself if being a 911 dispatcher is stressful, we’ve got the answer to that for you too.
Link to buy "A Tangled Web"
Information from womenslaw.org
Listen to "Music City 911"
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U.S. Department of Justice information on stalking
Stalking awareness fact sheet
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Season 3, Episode 1: When Stalking Invades Your Life: The True Story of Skylar Galloway

We all love to play armchair detective while watching our favorite true crime show. But how would you feel if you had to do REAL detective work so you could catch your own stalker? Skylar Galloway feels sure that if she hadn’t done just that, she wouldn’t still be alive.
On this episode of The Unlovely Truth, I interview Skylar Galloway. Skylar is an expert on the topic of stalking because she’s lived through it. One key takeaway that I learned from the episode was that victims of stalking live with much more fear than I realized. They need us to reach out with compassion and practical help, and we’ll talk about what that might look like.
Please share this episode on social media or with a friend. You might be surprised to find out that someone you know is dealing with a stalking situation and feels like no one could possibly understand what they are going through. According to stalkingawareness.org, an estimated 6-7.5 million people are stalked in a one-year period in the U.S., so it’s very likely that you know someone who needs to hear the story of hope that Skylar has to share.
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Stalking Awareness website
Stalking Awareness fact sheet
U.S. Department of Justice website page on stalking
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Season 2, Episode 52: Help Bring Missing People Home: Where are Bryan Dos Santos-Gomes, Jocelyn Turcios, and Branson Perry?

Where are Bryan Dos Santos-Gomes, Jocelyn Turcios, and Branson Perry? That’s exactly what their desperate families want to know.
If you are listening from Florida, Tennessee, or Missouri I hope you’ll pay special attention to today’s episode. Bryan, Jocelyn, and Branson have all been missing for over 15 years now, and their families are facing another Christmas without knowing what happened to them. So hug your own family tight, and share this episode to help these families who long to do the same.
Let’s finish up our series that I called the Twelve Cases of Christmas. We are shining a light on the cases of two missing children and a young man whose case has a twist that ties it to a previous episode. Follow the links below for that episode and more information about Bryan Dos Santos-Gomes, Jocelyn Turcios, and Branson Perry.
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Season 1, Episode 26 "In Broad Daylight"
Information on Bryan Dos Santos-Gomes:
winknews.com article
charleyproject website
nbc-2.com article
fox4now.com article
National Center for Missing and Exploited Children poster
If you have any information about the disappearance of Bryan Dos Santos-Gomes, please contact the Fort Myers Police Department at 877-667-1296. You can also call Southwest Florida Crime Stoppers at 1-800-780-TIPS, or the NCMEC at 1-800-THE-LOST.
Information on Jocelyn Turcios:
wkrn.com article
Franklin Tennessee city website
wkrn.com article
Pinterest board
wate.com article
Call Franklin Police if you have any information: (615) 794-2513, or 1-800-THE-LOST.
Information on Branson Perry:
Wikipedia article
newspressnow.com article
kmbc.com article
bringbransonhome.wordpress.com
If you know anything about Branson’s disappearance, please call the Community United Effort Center 24-hour tip line at 910-232-1687, Nodaway County Sheriff Randy Strong at 660-582-7451 or the Missouri State Highway Patrol at 800-877-3452.

Bonus Episode: Spark Podcast Network Christmas Episode

Since we’re friends, I wanted to give you a Christmas gift! Some of us in the Spark Podcast Network got together to share our thoughts about Christmas with you. I hope you enjoy this opportunity to get a sampling of some amazing Christian content from some wonderful fellow podcasters. You might even find a new favorite!
I hope that these messages bless you, and that you have a wonderful Christmas.

Season 2, Episode 51: Let’s Give Hope this Christmas: The Murders of Ariys Harris, Terra Kerstein, and Myrtle Cole

It’s almost Christmas and I hope you are all as excited as I am! As we wrap up the last of the gifts for our loved ones, let’s give three families the gift of hope - the hope that by highlighting three more cold cases in our Twelve Cases of Christmas series, we can be the spark that brings information forward to give answers about what happened, and maybe even bring some justice.
In this episode we’re again going to try to help three more families. Our cases today are all unsolved homicides. Ariys Harris from St. Louis, MO; Terra Lynn Kerstein from Port Salerno, FL; and Myrtle Cole of Fairhaven, MN.
As we all get ready to gather with our families and friends to celebrate the birth of Jesus, I’m reminded of Paul’s words from Acts 20:35 “In all things I have shown you that by working hard in this way we must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how He said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’”
The words that just jump out at me from this verse are “we must help the weak.” There are so many ways we can do that at Christmas time. So after you share this episode and encourage your friends to do the same, I encourage you to find someone in your community that needs a bit of a boost at Christmas time. Maybe that’s a young single mom like Ariys, someone who seems to be very isolated like Terra, or an elderly widow like Myrtle. These folks need a P.I. in their lives - a Person of Impact. A person like you.
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stltoday.com article about Ariys
kmov.com article about Ariys
ksdk.com article about Ariys
FB group "Who Killed Ariys Harris?"
If you have information, call the anonymous CrimeStoppers phone number: (314) 725-8477
The Palm Beach Post article about Terra Kerstein
Link to online tip form for Martin County Florida
kare11.com article about Myrtle Cole
minnesota.cbslocal.com article about Myrtle Cole
fox9.com article about Myrtle Cole
kstp.com article about Myrtle Cole
U.S. Department of Justice report on the victimization of the elderly
If you have any information about Myrtle Cole’s case, please contact the Stearns County Sheriff's Office at 320-259-3700, or send a tip directly to Tri-County Crime Stoppers of Minnesota

Season 2, Episode 50: For There is Nothing Hidden That Will Not Be Disclosed: Help Find Lopaz Richardson, Allyson Dalton, and Donald Westfall, Jr.

According to the FBI, at the end of 2020, the National Crime Information Center had almost 90,000 active missing persons cases entered into its data bank. That number absolutely blows my mind, and I hope it does yours too. Today, we are continuing our 12 Cases of Christmas series by looking at the disappearances of three people, Lopaz Richardson, Allyson Dalton, and Donald Westfall, Jr, whose families desperately want to know what happened to them.
The Bible tells us in Luke 8:17, “For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open.” Of course, the frustrating part is that that promise isn’t always fulfilled in the time frame we want. These families, and so many others, deserve to know what happened to their loved ones, so let’s do everything we can to help them. As believers, we all have a calling to be a PI - a person of impact. Let’s see how each one of us can do simple acts that make a significant difference in the true crime world.
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Black and Missing FaceBook page information on Lopaz Richardson
Texas Equusearch website
GoFundMe page to help find Lopaz Richardson
blackandmissinginc website article
If you’ve seen Lopaz or have any information about his disappearance, please call the Rosenberg Police Department at 832-595-3700, or call Texas EquuSearch at 281- 309-9500.
nbc12.com article About Allyson
charleyproject.org information on Allyson's disappearance
wnep.com article
thesearetheunsolved.com
If you have any information about Allyson’s whereabouts or her mother Sylena’s murder, please call the Virginia State Police toll-free at 1-888-300-0156 or dial #77 on a cell phone, or email questions@vsp.virginia.gov. You can also contact the Virginia Bureau of Criminal Investigation at 800-572-2260 or the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children at 800-THE-LOST.
wevv.com article
FaceBook page about Donnie's disappearance
tristatehomepage.com article
tristatehomepage.com article #2
If you have any information about Donald’s case, please contact Indiana State Police’s Jasper District at 812-482-1441 or 800-742-7475. You can also call NamUs at 817-304-0893 or email melissa.gregory@unthsc.edu.

FBI stats on missing persons