Stalkers: Are They Seeking Love or Retribution?

Hollywood seems to find obsessive love very romantic. Breakups often aren’t taken well, and the stalking starts. What concerns me are the movies where obsessive love wins the day, like in “The Notebook”. I know that old Allie and Noah are amazing, but young Noah was crazy aggressive in his pursuit of Allie. And what about Edward from “Twilight”? Showing up unannounced and watching Bella sleep is just creepy. What would we do about those situations in our own lives?

 

Hello and welcome to another episode of The Unlovely Truth. I’m your host, private investigator Lori Morrison. Join me for another compelling true crime story, where physical, spiritual, and emotional safety takeaways are waiting for us. If you are listening, I believe you have a unique calling—to become a different kind of PI, not a typical private investigator, but a person of impact!

 

This is Season 4, Episode 3. Our book this week in honor of National Stalking Awareness Month is “Stalkers: True Tales of Deadly Obsessions” and our guest is Kara Werner. Kara is a temporary licensed counselor working toward licensure as an LPC-MHSP in TN. She is doing fascinating research on stalkers. We will check in with Kara after we investigate this fascinating book.

 

Hollywood was being good to 18 year old Rebecca Schaeffer. She had landed a big role in a new TV sitcom with veteran actress Pam Dawber. Seventeen Magazine put her on their cover. She was starting to receive fan mail. It was all very exciting and seemed to promise her a very bright future. What she didn’t know was that one of her letter writers was a disturbed man named Robert Bardo. He watched her show and checked magazines for mentions of her or better still, pictures. His favorite picture was the one she had signed in response to one of the letters he’d sent her. She wasn’t aware that he wrote letters that he didn’t send her. Letters that even his twisted mind knew went too far.

 

1 Peter 5:8 NLT

 

Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. 

He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.

 

I’ll bet you’ve never stopped to consider what Satan has in common with stalkers. I never really had either, but let’s take a closer look at this passage. The devil is described as our great enemy. Can you imagine a greater enemy than a stalker who seems to know your every move, who watches you in secret, and harrasses you with attention you don’t want? Aren’t they prowling around, seeking prey to greedily gobble up? Each of these enemies seeks to control you and if that fails, they would just as soon see you dead. I hope that in today’s episode, you learned some red flags to look out for and some best practices to protect yourself from someone who wants to draw you in with false promises but in the end is only concerned about themselves.

 

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